Your significant other must build you up, not tear you down. Your significant other must accept who you are and not try to change you. Your significant other must stand by your decisions, no matter what those are.
Your significant other must bear true allegiance to you and never betray you, even when they disagree, they must respect you and keep your disagreements between the two of you. Your significant other must try to understand you and accept things about you they do not understand. Your significant other must not be with you conditionally, but unconditionally, even when those conditions may not be optimal.
A condition that suggest they will only be with you “if”, regardless of what that “if” is, is not acceptable. Vows and commitment do not allow conditions. Till death do us part is very clear, but you should not have to wish death upon yourself or the other so that your oath is fulfilled and the suffering can end.
You are only human. You will make mistakes, you will do silly things, but you are only human. You will learn from the things you do but you will continue to make mistakes. The only thing that’s constant in life is change. If you cannot embrace change, you cannot embrace life.
Your significant other must be malleable. They must be able to adapt to changes in circumstance. They must be be able to change with you. You must be able to change together. You must be able to grow together or you cannot be together. A tree that tries to grow in two different directions at the same time will end up disfigured and weak and so will your relationship if you grow apart.
Your significant other cannot be miserable and vindictive at their core. For men, you need a base, a place of comfort and familiarity that you can return to at the end of your work day. You need peace, love, and support in your home. Your significant other must lift you up so that you can lift up the rest of the world. Your significant other must build you up so that you can build great things.
A great man has a great woman behind him. The moment that defines his greatness is not what he accomplishes at work or in sport. The moment that defines his greatness is the person he has accepted to stand by his side. Everything in his life is decided upon the moment he aligns himself with another human being.
Men can do great things on their own but we tend to get lost in our own empires. No matter the greatness, no matter the wealth, at the end of the day we seek someone to share our empire with. Someone that inspires us, motivates us, pushes us to be our best, comforts us when we are at our worst, allows us to make mistakes, but most importantly, breathes life into us so that we can fight another battle.
When you have a great woman by your side, the wounds and defeats you face on the battlefield of life are insignificant. A great woman can heal your wounds and help you get passed defeats. They can push you to greatness.
“Behind every successful man is his woman. Behind the fall of a successful man is usually another woman.”
Any woman that is not great will wound you further after the battle. They will kick you while you are down. They will tear into those old wounds and not let them heal. They will remind you of your defeats, your failures, your mistakes, and they will try to drag you down, misery loves company. They will not stop until you are as unhappy and as miserable as they are. You will never be good enough for them.
Sometimes it’s easy to recognize a miserable woman by the way they talk. If any woman you meet talks about their past relationships and how it’s always the man that was at fault for their downfall, run for your life. If it’s always the guy, then it’s going to be the guy when you date them — it’s going to be you.
Relationships are a 50/50 thing, if at anytime someone does not want to admit that they messed up at least half of the time in their relationships then they are oblivious to their wrong doings. They will continue to walk around blaming their past boyfriends and men in their lives for screwing them over. The longer that list grows, the more vindictive and mean they become.
Not only will it be you, but they will tear you down so that you can feel their pain. They will exact all of their avengeance from their past and take it out on you. You will be miserable and you may even be brought to blame yourself, these women are downright evil and mean, and they deserve to be alone for the rest of their lives.
Unfortunately, they are good at what they do, manipulation and deceit. Most of these woman are great con artists, they are usually also very attractive. They will find a way to get in and they will tie themselves into your life so that when you do finally pry them away, it will hurt. They are the scum of the earth, leeches, they are vampiric, and they will suck the life out of you. They will rip your heart out and eat it right in front of you.
Their sole purpose is to make you feel like you are nothing without them. To make you think that you need them when you really don’t. They will exaggerate their accomplishments and make you feel inadequate. They will act like you couldn’t have done anything on your own and you would be nothing without them.
A real woman, silently leads you to greatness, and never ever seeks recognition for what she did. When all is said and done, you naturally say “we” did it. You give credit where credit is due.
The foundation must be strong or anything you build on it will crumble.
If a man has no motivation, no inspiration, isn’t accomplishing things at work, isn’t doing great things — isn’t the father, the husband, or the boyfriend he was supposed to be — look no further than the woman in his life. If he has one, she is to blame for the failure, because she is not a great woman. If he doesn’t, then finding a great woman will allow him to do great things.
I have never met a successful man that didn’t have a great woman supporting him but I have met many great men that were not living up to their potential or doing great things because their woman was not so great.
A mind fuck can disable a man for a day, a week, or forever. The scarring of a vindictive woman will haunt them, maybe for life. Men with such scars lack confidence and tend to keep to themselves. They hide under the radar and they push people away. These men are no different than disabled war heroes, only their injury was mental, not physical. The battlefield was just as real in their minds but they don’t feel like a hero at all.
This post, while it reads as very personal for the writer, gave me some perspective on how a woman’s actions truly can influence and impact a man. I don’t think I’m as bad as the woman you describe here. But I admit that for the most part, I’ve been self-serving in my relationship with little consideration for my partner’s perspective. I don’t think it makes me or any woman “the scum of the earth”. But perhaps it makes/made me ignorant. Your post has given me food for thought. Thanks! 🙂
This post, while it reads as very personal for the writer, gave me some perspective on how a woman’s actions truly can influence and impact a man. I don’t think I’m as bad as the woman you describe here. But I admit that for the most part, I’ve been self-serving in my relationship with little consideration for my partner’s perspective. I don’t think it makes me or any woman “the scum of the earth”. But perhaps it makes/made me ignorant. Your post has given me food for thought. Thanks! 🙂