Your exes have nothing to do with your current relationship, if you think they do, you’ve already set yourself up for problems. Don’t compare your current partner to any of your exes, good or bad, nothing good can come from it. If you have an issue, you can’t solve it by comparing your current to an ex, you will only make things worse.
You should never say your exes are better than your current, there is no reason to say such things, even if it’s true. You’re only going to hurt your current or piss them off and no one deserves that. You’re better than that.
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Just because you have a difference in opinions, disagree on something, or have different ideas and goals, does not give you the right to try to hurt them or put them down. Just because you are two different people that separated on your life path, doesn’t mean you have to be mean. Your differences have nothing to do with hurting another person.
In fact, hurting another person has absolutely nothing to do with anyone other than yourself and how miserable and vindictive you are inside. Being mean and saying hurtful things is something you should never do even if someone does them to you.
There is no way to justify those actions regardless of what they did or didn’t do. In the end you are just a horrible person.
You cannot simply say you were mean to me at this point in our relationship or you did this, it doesn’t make you right. You are in full control of what you say and do, if someone was mean to you, you don’t have to be mean to them.
One action does not coincide with the other. Your actions make you wrong, and you can’t make them right because of something someone else did, you are always wrong when you sink to that level. It doesn’t have anything to do with the other person at that point. If they were wrong at some point, let it be, their karma is waiting.
You can’t change someone and you can’t make them love you. You can’t force them to do things and you can’t achieve this with ultimatums. You control only yourself, including how you feel and what you think.
If at anytime the person in your life isn’t heading down the same path you want them to be and you can’t’ fix it through real communication, then admit it, and take actions for yourself. Putting them down or blaming them for something gets you absolutely nowhere.
Even if you make up from a fight and stay together with them, you’ve now caused permanent emotional scarring. They will trust you less, love you less, and be more insecure. Being a mean spirited person causes your relationship to be unstable.
The important thing is that you know what you should and shouldn’t’ say. You know what hurts and what doesn’t hurt your partner.
You know.
You have no excuses to do evil. Saying the “truth hurts” isn’t true. Because you have your own truths, they have theirs, and somewhere in between may be the real truth. Your truth is not right and never will be so when you say the “truth hurts” you’re saying that it’s okay to spew your vile opinions at them even if it hurts them because you’re right.
Not only does that make you a horrible person but also an egotistical asshole.
Keep the things you need to keep to yourself. Be open, honest, and communicate. Recognize when you can and when you can’t move forward. Be sincere, honest, and never go to sleep angry. Be real, even if you’re mad at them and fighting. Make sure they know that you love.
There’s nothing wrong with loving someone and realizing at the same time it’s not going to work. There’s nothing wrong with being friendly, accepting, and understanding. There’s nothing wrong with being nice, sincere, and respectful.
The minute you aren’t any of these things is the minute you show your true vile self. And you’re better than that. Love people for who they are, love yourself for what you are, and show love, kindness, and gratitude in all situations.
There is no such thing as a bad situation, just bad people with bad mindsets, and some with evil intentions. A real breakup is positive, happy, and progressive. To come to the realization that your hour glass has run out with that person, to thank them and wish them luck, is a quality trait of some of the most spiritual human beings to have walked this earth.
Relax, the world is not ending.
You do not need to control things. You don’t need to be in charge or bossy. You do what you can, let others be what they are, and let the rest take care of itself. No complaining, no bickering, no put downs, no insults, and no negative interactions.
Let go.
Instead of looking at what someone should do or didn’t do, examine your own life instead. There are many things that you should be doing or didn’t do. Never assume you’re better than someone else, especially not your partner.
And if you’ve been evil and cruel, don’t be oblivious to your mistakes, it could cost you your true love. Admit to your mistakes, apologize, and fix yourself. I guarantee you that if from this point on that no matter what your ex does or doesn’t do, if you respond with kindness, your relationship will improve on it’s own. Not just with your ex, but show everyone kindness and understanding, and your life will improve.
There are many keys to happiness, none are hidden, because you are holding all of them in your hand. Look down, look inside, but never look outward to blame someone for your problems or the way you feel. Other people are not responsible…you are. You control your life, not theirs.
If your life is shitty, it’s because your shitty.
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