If you’re single and in your 20’s watching all of your dream girls get married off, don’t worry it’s not the end of the world. At least half of those girls will be available again by the time they hit 30 years old. And if you miss the boat then, there’s another likely chance that your dream girl will divorce again if she gets remarried.
Good things come to those who wait. I don’t know that waiting for 10 years is part of your strategy, more than likely you’ll be marrying somebody else’s dream girl in your 20’s and then setting them free again sometime after.
Marriage in this generation is more like a catch and release program. Some people may even do it for the sport of it, like fishing, although you don’t have to go all the way through with marriage to participate.
Some people catch a big fish and keep it for awhile until they catch something bigger. It’s amazing how similar relationships are to fishing restrictions. It would be no different than limiting yourself to one fish a day, naturally you keep the biggest alive and set it free when you catch bigger.
Maybe the parallel between fishing and relationships goes back a long time, everyone has probably heard the idiom, “There’s plenty of fish in the sea.”
The first marriage is really the equivalent of a training program. Over half the women that marry will get divorced within the first 10 years. In that time they’ve gone through a lot. Most of them are so beaten down with low self-esteem that it is far too easy to swoop them off their feet again with little effort.
I have begun to notice that there is a plethora of gorgeous women with low self esteem in the 30-39 age range. You would be absolutely amazed at what you can find in this pool. Most of them are very appreciative and have low expectations. The bar has not been set very high.
Compare that to women that are in their 20’s. These women haven’t gone through the reality of life yet, their ego is high, their expectations unrealistic, and they are floating on cloud nine. It takes some years, a few relationships, or a bad marriage for them to realize that fairy tale love stories aren’t real and that prince charming isn’t coming to rescue them.
Guys are just as bad, most of them don’t make it through their training phase here and end up releasing their catch only to regret it later. Our expectations are very high and we don’t know how to treat women for the most part in the beginning that takes some time and failure. Guys in their 20’s are responsible for all of the happily ever after 2nd marriages that go to guys in their 30’s.
Guys in their 30’s are just waiting by to take over where you fucked up. What a great deal guys in their 30s get. Beautiful women with low expectations and hopefully the party phase of their life gone. More down to earth and realistic, but more importantly more stable.
There’s nothing worse than waking up each day wondering when she’s going to leave you. By the time you’re in your 30’s you either don’t care or you know she’s not going anywhere, and that’s a relief, it allows us to focus on other things.
The first 10 years of any young marriage can be absolutely brutal, the mistake you’re making is giving up after you’ve gone through the hard part.
When in doubt, don’t throw it out!
Let’s face it, the grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it. The first thing you’re going to do after you dump your hot wife is go find another girl. You will then proceed to swoon her by doing what exactly?
You’ll swoon her by doing all of the things you could have done for your now ex-wife that would have kept the marriage intact and helped you rekindle your love.
It’s the funniest fucking thing in the world to watch and it’s also unexplainable.
For some reason you weren’t able to do these things for your ex-spouse whom you probably have a kid with and shared a lot of your life with, but you’ll find time to do all those special things for some random girl you just met, when doing those things for your ex-spouse all along would have made your marriage and relationship strong and beautiful.
So if your wife or girlfriend is mad that you aren’t taking her on a date, cuddling, getting her gifts, or anything else, my advice to you is to just fucking save yourself the hassle and do it with your current gf or spouse because there’s no escaping this one.
Even if you leave that relationship and find another girl you’re going to have to do those things double time. Why give some random person that you just met all of the things your current girlfriend or wife has earned by putting time and energy into the relationship with you?
I mean, what’s the real issue here? You don’t like the way your spouse looks anymore or what? What type of reason makes any sense here?
Maybe it’s a different story if you’re still doing all the things to swoon your current spouse or girlfriend, and maybe, if you’ve tried to keep the love going but you’ve just “grown apart”, then it makes sense to move along.
For most of the divorces, that simply isn’t true. Looking at the most common reasons why people get divorced is an obvious indicator that the real reason people get divorced is because they just stopped trying.
You can give it a sophisticated justification like, “we lost intimacy” or “irreconcilable differences” or “we’ve grown apart” but those are all the same thing as saying that you just didn’t give a fuck. So be honest and just say you stopped giving a fuck, no fancy words required.
Never refuse to reuse!
If all else fails and you do go through with a divorce or break up. Have no fear, someone will come along and swoop your ex off her feet. Your ex will probably remarry again and rub it in your face.
The new groom will probably send you a thank you card in the mail for being such a douchebag. They will be happy that you lowered her expectations and knocked her off her high horse.
Let’s face it, people that get together in their 30s would have overlooked each other in their 20s because of their ego, expectations, and shallowness. The “requirements” for attraction in 20s look something like this.
- Physical appearance
- Common interests or hobbies
- Job security
- Life goals
By the time you’re in your 30s.
- Job security
- Stability
- Looks don’t matter
- Hobbies don’t matter
I can only begin to guess that this list becomes less shallow over time. The priorities for somebody in their 60s is probably that they are alive and willing to be in a relationship, who knows.
So that’s the advice I have to offer you. When in doubt don’t throw it out and never refuse to reuse. And if any of you find your dream girl and she’s already been married, please make sure to write a thank you letter to her ex-husband.
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