The Fastest Way To Bond With Someone

It takes time to get to know someone. Some people like to get to know you before they consider going on a date with you. If they feel some type of connection while they are getting to know you, they may be willing to take you up on that date.

Sometimes people that say they want to get to know you better before they go on a date are actually being dishonest. Sometimes what they are really saying is, “Hey I’m not interested, but I don’t want to hurt your feelings.” Being able to tell the difference between someone that is dishonest and someone that wants to feel more comfortable with you can save you a lot of time.

The quickest way to form a bond with another human is to share a very emotional circumstance.

This is no secret. It’s been the theme of many romantic comedies, especially ones involving apocalyptic or hopeless scenarios.

How many times have two people fallen in love right before the world is about to end? The same two people that would have walked by each other in a normal world. But then they realize they are in love, share some intimate moments, and wish for more time together — while everyone in the theater is in tears over their dialogue.

This type of bonding is real. The stronger the event, the greater the chance of a bond — catastrophes and thrills work the best because they invoke fear and joy.

If you help someone flee from a murderer, the chances you’re going to form an immediate bond are extremely high. If you find each other physically attractive, the likelihood you’re going to become intimate is all but certain at this point.

On the other side, bonds can also be formed by positive emotions. Business partners often become intimate with each other when business is doing well. When two people are working together to close deals and make a lot of money, the passion they both share and the joy it brings will unite them.

Anytime there is an emotional trigger when two people meet or an emotional trigger when two people are together, it opens the door for intimacy and speeds up the bonding process.

So if there is a person you like, it might be a good idea to hire a hitman to chase you around for a day. Then you can bond through fear while feeling like fugitives on the run.

If that’s too extreme for you, try something very thrilling, like a rollercoaster ride, a concert, or a vacation. Go big or go home right?

Keep in mind that lots of people have built-in defense mechanisms that prevent them from being exposed to highly emotional things. In this case they’ll tell you they just want to be simple and get to know you first before you go to that concert. If you’re in this scenario, you might want to consider the hitman approach — or maybe the old purse snatcher trick.

This is how strong emotional bonds are created quickly.

The more dramatic the event, the greater the chance of bonding — fear always works best. Nothing says “let’s hump” better than hiding out in a dingy motel room while on the run for your lives.

Make sure you have what it takes to keep going. Your relationship and bond can fade just as rapidly as it started when the thrill or fear wears off. If it was a person trying to hurt you and the threat disappears you no longer have a common enemy. This forces people to face each other for the very first time to see if they built enough of a foundation for it to last. Sometimes people split and go their separate ways by simply realizing how naive they were.

When business starts to falter or the deals stop coming through or someone gets a promotion or does other work, the business bond you formed will also begin to deteriorate.

This rapid emotional bond only bridges the gap of what you have in common with that person. The more passionate you are about what you have in common the quicker you will form a bond — when you lose something you have in common, the bond weakens.